Because sometimes things take time and work and progress is slow but just because you're not all the way there, it doesn't make that progress you have made meaningless!

[He's getting mad, and getting mad makes it easier somewhow? His words come spewing out in anger before he can overthink them and freak himself out.]

If you can't, then you can't! I'm not making you do anything! If that's the answer, that we acknowledge it but don't want to take it further, then fine! At least we know where we stand! But don't decide how I should feel about you!